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Friday, May 19, 2017

Childhood Favorites...Frances Hodgson Burnett

Childhood favorites. Everyone has a favorite book or author from childhood. A book that touched them or changed them. A book that perhaps initiated their love of reading and put them on the path of libraries and learning.

Childhood Favorites is a monthly series focusing on beloved books from the past. 

Donald Zolan, Quiet Time.

Reading Frances Hodgson Burnett is like a right of passage.


Like many children, I adored A Little Princess. Who doesn't love Sara Crewe? Her imagination, her kindness, her ability to find joy even in the midst of drudgery? The story is mesmerizing and my favorite edition is the one with Tasha Tudor's gorgeous illustrations.


The image of Sara coming back to her rooms to discover poor, exhausted Becky is one of my favorites. Not only because of Sara's gorgeous pink dress, but because it captures so perfectly the scene as it is written.

I could sit and look at these drawings all day long. I read and reread Sara's story over and over.


I didn't read The Secret Garden until I was an adult. I don't know why, because I loved it. And I adore the musical that is based on Mary's story.

Mrs. Burnett wrote so many more books than just these two, but these are the two I read and The Little Princess is one of my all-time favorite stories of all time.  I love Sara's goodness and her imagination. I love how she loved and cared for everyone when she was poor, just as she did when she was rich.

So many wonderful life lessons.

What about you? What is one of your childhood favorites?

Thursday, May 18, 2017

Cover Crush...The Book of Summer


I will freely admit that I judge books by their covers. The cover is usually what first captures my attention when browsing Goodreads or Netgalley. Actually, in all honesty, it isn't just usually, it's pretty much all the time. The cover determines if I look at the synopsis and reviews.


Happy. This cover just makes me happy. A weathered wall, a bicycle with a basket filled with flowers an a book. Is it a journal or a novel? Who are the flowers for and where is the rider headed or has she arrived? Bicycles with baskets are cheerful and bring smiles as you see them.

What about you? Any book covers capture your attention this week?

Cover Crush is a weekly series that originated with Erin at Flashlight Commentary. If you want to check out some other terrific bloggers and what their Cover Crush posts look like, you can do that here: The Maiden's Court, Flashlight Commentary, A Bookaholic SwedeLayered Pages, indieBRAG, A Literary Vacation.

Thursday, May 11, 2017

Cover Crush...Echo of Danger


I will freely admit that I judge books by their covers. The cover is usually what first captures my attention when browsing Goodreads or Netgalley. Actually, in all honesty, it isn't just usually, it's pretty much all the time. The cover determines if I look at the synopsis and reviews.


A single light in the building. The crashing river, the water wheel and a wooden bridge. This cover just oozes ominous. I don't love thrillers, but this cover just grabbed me. With the mist and the woods, what is lurking? Where is the danger?

What about you? Any book covers capture your attention this week?

Cover Crush is a weekly series that originated with Erin at Flashlight Commentary. If you want to check out some other terrific bloggers and what their Cover Crush posts look like, you can do that here: The Maiden's Court, Flashlight Commentary, A Bookaholic SwedeLayered Pages, indieBRAG, A Literary Vacation.

Thursday, May 4, 2017

Cover Crush...By Any Name


I will freely admit that I judge books by their covers. The cover is usually what first captures my attention when browsing Goodreads or Netgalley. Actually, in all honesty, it isn't just usually, it's pretty much all the time. The cover determines if I look at the synopsis and reviews.


Without ever seeing her expression, you can sense that the woman on this cover has attitude and presence. The colors of her ensemble are striking against the pier and ocean. Clothing would suggest late 1940s or early 1950s. Who is she? Where does her strength and attitude come from? 

What about you? Any book covers capture your attention this week?

Cover Crush is a weekly series that originated with Erin at Flashlight Commentary. If you want to check out some other terrific bloggers and what their Cover Crush posts look like, you can do that here: The Maiden's Court, Flashlight Commentary, A Literary VacationA Bookaholic SwedeLayered Pages, indieBRAG.

Monday, May 1, 2017

The Grumpface...Spotlight and Release Day!

 About the book:
‘The Grumpface’, is a poetic fairy-tale that tells the story of Dan, an inventor who ventures into a forest looking for a rose. Instead he finds the mysterious Grumpface who threatens to hold him captive unless he passes some difficult challenges. What follows is a humorous adventure that neither Dan nor the Grumpface could have anticipated.

‘The Grumpface’ is a tale in the spirit of any grand adventure. It is about a clumsy young inventor’s quest for love, and the challenges he must face to find it. But it is also a tale of bravery, absurdity and happiness, and the power of these qualities over negativity and sheer grumpiness.

Every parent will be acquainted with their own little ‘grumpface’ now and then. This story stands as a small piece of hope – that no matter how ingrained the grump, there will always remain in every one of us a smile or a laugh just waiting to come out.

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About the author:
BCR Fegan is an Australian author who has written a number of fairy tales and fantasies for children and young adults. He is inspired by stories that resonate deeply with our desire for adventure, yearning for magic, and search for meaning. When Fegan is not writing children’s books, he is forging worlds in the realm of Young Adult Fiction.

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The Grumpface is released today and can be found on Amazon and Barnes and Noble. Thanks to the author for the privilege of spotlighting this darling book. You can learn more about BCR Fegen here.

Friday, April 28, 2017

5 Books I Want to Read...John Steinbeck

I keep a wish list on Goodreads called "want to read". Currently, it's up to 2845. Yeah. I also have several stacks of books tucked against walls throughout my house. Each is probably at least 3 feet high of books I haven't read yet. I periodically go through my list and purge it, but it still is not slowing down. Nor are the books that keep appearing on my Kindle. They're all still on my wish list, I just haven't gotten to them yet.

Each month I highlight 5 books I want to read. I don't set out to plan themes, but somehow patterns creep into my viewing.

I realized that I had several John Steinbeck books listed in my TBR. I know I read Of Mice and Men in High School, but it's been a long time and I think it's due for a reread. I loved Cannery Row and I hated Tortilla Flats. I love that Steinbeck's books are set in Northern California because that is where I'm from. I love, love, love Monterey.

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Of Mice and Men by John Steinbeck

The compelling story of two outsiders striving to find their place in an unforgiving world. Drifters in search of work, George and his simple-minded friend Lennie have nothing in the world except each other and a dream--a dream that one day they will have some land of their own. Eventually they find work on a ranch in California’s Salinas Valley, but their hopes are doomed as Lennie, struggling against extreme cruelty, misunderstanding and feelings of jealousy, becomes a victim of his own strength. Tackling universal themes such as the friendship of a shared vision, and giving voice to America’s lonely and dispossessed, Of Mice and Men has proved one of Steinbeck’s most popular works, achieving success as a novel, a Broadway play and three acclaimed films.

The Grapes of Wrath by John Steinbeck

John Steinbeck's Pulitzer Prize-winning epic of the Great Depression follows the western movement of one family and a nation in search of work and human dignity. Perhaps the most American of American classics. The novel focuses on the Joads, a poor family of sharecroppers driven from their Oklahoma home by drought, economic hardship, and changes in financial and agricultural industries. Due to their nearly hopeless situation, and in part because they were trapped in the Dust Bowl, the Joads set out for California. Along with thousands of other "Okies", they sought jobs, land, dignityand  a future. When preparing to write the novel, Steinbeck wrote: "I want to put a tag of shame on the greedy bastards who are responsible for this [the Great Depression and its effects]." The book won Steinbeck a large following among the working class, perhaps due to the book's sympathy to the workers' movement and its accessible prose style. The Grapes of Wrath is frequently read in American high school and college literature classes. A celebrated Hollywood film version, starring Henry Fonda and directed by John Ford, was made in 1940.

East of Eden by John Steinbeck

Set in the rich farmland of California’s Salinas Valley, this sprawling and often brutal novel follows the intertwined destinies of two families—the Trasks and the Hamiltons—whose generations helplessly reenact the fall of Adam and Eve and the poisonous rivalry of Cain and Abel. Here Steinbeck created some of his most memorable characters and explored his most enduring themes: the mystery of identity; the inexplicability of love; and the murderous consequences of love’s absence.

The Pearl by John Steinbeck

Like his father and grandfather before him, Kino is a poor diver, gathering pearls from the gulf beds that once brought great wealth to the kings of Spain and now provide Kino, Juana, and their infant son with meager subsistence. Then, on a day like any other, Kino emerges from the sea with a pearl as large as a sea gull’s egg, as “perfect as the moon.” With the pearl comes hope, the promise of comfort and of security.

A story of classic simplicity, based on a Mexican folk tale, The Pearl explores the secrets of man’s nature, greed, the darkest depths of evil, and the luminous possibilities of love.

Sweet Thursday by John Steinbeck

In Monterey, on the California coast, Sweet Thursday is what they call the day after Lousy Wednesday, which is one of those days that are just naturally bad. Returning to the scene of Cannery Row, the weedy lots and junk heaps and flophouses of Monterey, John Steinbeck once more brings to life the denizens of a netherworld of laughter and tears from Fauna, new headmistress of the local brothel, to Hazel, a bum whose mother must have wanted a daughter.

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What about you? What books are on your "want to read/wish" list?

5 Books I want to Read is a monthly meme started by Stephanie at Layered Pages. If you want to check out some other terrific bloggers and what their wish lists look like, you can do that here: A Bookaholic Swede, Layered Pages, The Maiden's Court, Flashlight Commentary and A Literary Vacation.

Thursday, April 27, 2017

Cover Crush...The Seafront Tea Room


I will freely admit that I judge books by their covers. The cover is usually what first captures my attention when browsing Goodreads or Netgalley. Actually, in all honesty, it isn't just usually, it's pretty much all the time. The cover determines if I look at the synopsis and reviews.



Tea cups. I love tea cups. I don't even drink tea and I love tea cups. They're so dainty and they evoke comfort and conversation. Here, they sit stacked, likely on a beach-side table with the ocean in the background. The title would suggest a tea room located on the beach. Who cares? It's tea cups! I want to read it just because it includes tea cups and the ocean.

What about you? Any book covers capture your attention this week?

Cover Crush is a weekly series that originated with Erin at Flashlight Commentary. If you want to check out some other terrific bloggers and what their Cover Crush posts look like, you can do that here: The Maiden's CourtFlashlight CommentaryA Bookaholic SwedeLayered Pages, indieBRAG, A Literary Vacation.

Saturday, April 22, 2017

Weekend Reflections 4/22

Looking outside...it's gorgeous and sunny. Currently 59, with a breeze.

Listening...to the washing machine and a fish tank. The Doctor is using the new steamer to clean some carpets. The Artist is asleep.

Loving...that The Doctor is home. We haven't had a lot of Saturdays together over the last 10 years because he always had to see patients and while it was only supposed to be a couple of hours in the morning, it always ended up being most of the day. 

Now, he is able to schedule as he pleases and see patients when he wants to. He stayed late to see a patient last night and I didn't mind, because it was his choice and his patient.

We are together so much more now because I am able to work in his office with him. I love it.

Thinking...that I should probably get moving.

In my kitchen...Not sure yet. Last night I did a Deconstructed Pizza. So good and Keto friendly. It's basically a pizza casserole of all the pizza ingredients minus the crust. Amazing!

Wearing...purple pajamas, black slippers and a gray cardigan.

Reading...I am a reading slacker. Truly, it is pathetic.

Today...I'm not sure. Definitely some stuff around the house, but we also want to take advantage of a beautiful day.

Quoting...“Families are messy. Immortal families are eternally messy. Sometimes the best we can do is to remind each other that we're related for better or for worse...and try to keep the maiming and killing to a minimum.” ― Rick Riordan, The Sea of Monsters

Feeling...Missing The Boy.

We took him back to school for spring semester last weekend. We had a great weekend in Utah seeing friends. Lots of laughs, love good food and even better conversation. I love how my family blends so well with my girlfriends' families. Saw the Mormon Tabernacle Choir Music and the Spoken Word Easter program on Sunday before driving The Boy back to Rexburg. 

I love that he has opportunities like school, but his absence leaves a big gaping hole in our home. The music isn't quite tuned well when one is missing.

Planning...this next week and prepping a Sunday School lesson for tomorrow.


Gratitude...for texting, so we can chat with The Boy, answer questions and just connect.

From my world... 




Take the life you've been given and make it incredible. 

What about you? What are you reflecting on this week? How has your week gone?

Friday, April 21, 2017

Childhood Favorites...Catherine Woolley

Childhood favorites. Everyone has a favorite book or author from childhood. A book that touched them or changed them. A book that perhaps initiated their love of reading and put them on the path of libraries and learning.

Childhood Favorites is a monthly series focusing on beloved books from the past. 

Donald Zolan, Quiet Time.

Catherine Woolley was a prolific writer in the 1940s, 50s and 60s. I discovered her Cathy series in the early 1970s when I was in about the 4-5th grade. I checked these books out of our library, repeatedly!


I loved Cathy, who was precocious, who had a vivid imagination and who always considered herself older than she was. She had an annoying little sister who adored and annoyed her. I could relate to Cathy. In many ways, I was Cathy.

What about you? What is one of your childhood favorites?

Thursday, April 20, 2017

Cover Crush...To the Farthest Shores


I will freely admit that I judge books by their covers. The cover is usually what first captures my attention when browsing Goodreads or Netgalley. Actually, in all honesty, it isn't just usually, it's pretty much all the time. The cover determines if I look at the synopsis and reviews.


It's the ocean. Need I say more? A woman stands at the edge of an outcropping next to crashing waves. She's looking out to sea. Why? For what or whom? Is she missing someone or waiting? I love the contrast between her bright blue dress and the somber ocean weather.  

What about you? Any book covers capture your attention this week?

Cover Crush is a weekly series that originated with Erin at Flashlight Commentary. If you want to check out some other terrific bloggers and what their Cover Crush posts look like, you can do that here: The Maiden's Court, A Literary Vacation, Flashlight Commentary, A Bookaholic SwedeLayered Pages, indieBRAG.

Friday, April 14, 2017

Пятница Ponderings: Parenting via the Internet

Ponder: to consider something deeply and thoroughly; meditate 
Пятница (PYAHT-nee-tsuh): Friday in Russian

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I read a blog post this week that was all about the things you MUST do with your daughter before she's grown. Now, I have sons, not daughters, but I was raised in a family of all daughters. And I'm not linking to the specific blog post I read because I am not slamming it or the author. Truly. Her points were good for her family. What I have a problem with is people who think they have all the answers.

The reason I saw that particular blog post was because my sweet mother shared it on Facebook with the caption: "I did some of this with my girls. Wish I had known to do more." That caption bugged the hell out of me and I hated that post for making my Mom feel like she wasn't an adequate mother. She is a fantastic mother and grandmother.

For everything I like about social media, there are things I hate. And I absolutely hate that social media just makes our self-worth plummet. Social media is all about extremes. It's either "my life is perfect" or "my life is a train wreck". People overshare and only put up things that make them look perfect or they overshare and all we see are the troubles and drama.

Reality television has made living your life in front of an audience appealing and it gives people the impression that their lives and opinions are important to strangers. And it leaves the viewers or readers believing that their own lives are so much less than the lives that they see on the screen. The reality is that reality television, honest true-life reality, wouldn't get very many viewers.

All of these lifestyle/family/mommy blogs are great, but the idea that anyone has the best way/style/whatever for raising children grates on me.

"Hi! Look at me! Here's my perfect little family, documented in thousands of perfectly-styled and posed pictures. Listen to us as we tell you how you can raise perfect little angels in a perfectly decorated house just like ours."

I started this blog to remember what books I read. I keep my family life fairly private, but I share things here and there. I try to be honest though and I would never presume to tell you how to think or feel or parent. Heck, I didn't even tell you how I voted or who you should vote for. If you're a regular visitor, you know I'm snarky and opinionated, but I'm never cruel.

So here's my two cents about the parenting thing: parent what works for you just don't presume to tell the rest of us how we need to do it.

If you have suggestions or want to share your parenting styles and tips, go ahead. But in this case, wouldn't a better title be: "The things WE want to do with (or teach) our daughters before they're grown" instead of "you MUST do"? And, how about asking readers to share the things they think are important in raising their own children?

This was what I commented on the post my mother shared:

You did just fine! You excelled at the reading, the cooking and the traditions thing! 😉 We didn't go to the Nutcracker until we were all adults, but you did manage that one, too... 😉 And, my childhood wasn't ruined because we didn't make mailboxes together. You talked to us face to face and I still have notes that you and Dad wrote to me. We didn't need to have special days out in nature, because we played outside all the time and we went camping. I don't remember visiting BYU or USU as a child, but guess what? We all went to college anyway! You and Dad gave us a great childhood and raised 4 pretty awesome daughters, quirks and all, who contribute and serve. I think that this day of over sharing and social media comparisons only serves to make us all feel inadequate. Kudos to this woman for choosing 12 things she thinks are important. I have my own ideas of what things are important in raising two boys and that list does not include manufacturing little vignettes of perfectness. I think that knowing you're loved is the most important thing you can give your kids and you and Dad certainly did a wonderful job with that. 

Our boys don't have scrapbooks full of picture-perfect experiences. I bribe them not to go trick or treating and we see a movie on Halloween instead. They've only each had one actual birthday party with invited friends and decorations. When I have joked before that our Family Motto is rule #5 from Alcatraz, I am not kidding. They can quote it to you. They vacuum the floor and clean the bathroom. I send them outside to play. Their rooms aren't decorated. Honestly, The Boy's room? It still has the floral border around it from when we first moved into this house. He just put up his posters over it. He sleeps on our old futon and loves it. The Artist? He sleeps on an old queen mattress on the floor of his room. No kidding. He likes it. His room is decorated with his art work and is still the original paint color it was when we moved in.

I'm snarky and often say things out of frustration. I forgot to take a new school picture of them at the first of the school year and even when I do, it's not color coordinated and posed. (Those of you who do that? Kudos. They're gorgeous.)

I worked full-time when my boys were little, because The Doctor was in Chiropractic school. From the time they were 3 months old until The Boy was 6 and The Artist 4, they were in daycare. And guess what? I have no regrets for doing that. I didn't miss out on anything important with my boys. It worked for us and our situation in life. They were in a fantastic home; The Boy has good memories of being there, The Artist doesn't and we are still close friends with the family who cared for them.

I make the boys talk to their teachers themselves about their grades and assignments. When they were little, we even took them out of church when they cried and were disruptive, rather than disturb everyone around us. And we made them sit quietly in the foyer and not run around when other toddlers did. We were so mean. We still are. Seriously. They don't even get to have overnighters with friends unless it's a scout camp out.

And horror of horrors: They. Have. Never. Been. To. Disneyland.

I should be locked up.

You want to know what our parenting style is? The Doctor and I want our boys to know they're loved. We think that is the most important thing we can do as parents. We have worked for 18 years at having relationships with the boys that ensure that they talk to us. We also say, "Yes" as much we can. Sometimes our humor might be questionable, but we laugh. A lot. They know that we love them. They know that they can ask questions and they do. We have some great discussions.  They know that home is a safe place. They're 16 and 18 and they're not afraid to say, "I love you" to us and to each other. They're not afraid to hug us or each other and show affection.

We have created traditions. Some have come about by accident, some by design. A tradition is simply something that becomes important to you and your family and something you want to do more than once. Some of our traditions have come about because the boys wanted them. Like this weekend. Last year we were in Utah visiting friends over Easter and we went to Music and the Spoken Word on Easter Sunday. The choir did selections from Handel's Messiah. It was awesome and the boys decided that we needed to do that every Easter. So, we're going to Utah this weekend. We didn't contrive a tradition, it happened naturally. We created other traditions like new Christmas ornaments every year and snuggle nights with Dad where they sleep out in the living room. When The Boy learned how to drive, they created their own brotherly tradition of ice cream runs (which is going out together to get ice cream shakes because after 8:00 they're only $1.00).

We took our boys out to dinner and to museums at an early age and taught them how we expect them to behave in those circumstances.

I read to them when they were little and they've been surrounded by books all their lives. While they like books and like reading, things like games and streaming came into the world and so neither one is the ultimate bookworm I had hoped to foster. I'm surprised at how little that bothers me, although I cherish the moments I catch them reading.

They know how to work hard. They can still fight with each other like tiger cubs (giant tiger cubs), but they're kind and they help others. We're incredibly proud of them and I think they just came to us good and we have managed to not screw them up too terribly, so far.

So, parent the way you think is best. Parent what works for you. And what works for one child, might not work the same for another. Do your best. Parenting is such an individual thing. I personally believe the most important thing is that your kids know they are loved and will talk to you and that is more important to me than color-coordinated birthday parties or manufactured vignettes of perfectness, but to each his own.

Make your own lists of what you think is important as parents, don't worry about someone else's.

Keep doing what you're doing if it's working for you, and stop comparing yourself to others, because you're all fantastic parents. Don't let some anonymous person on the Internet let you feel differently.

What is your parenting style or philosophy? What's worked for you?